Music Monday: Ode to the professional dominatrix

I think this song describes more of a relationship between a dominatrix and her client with it's themes of addiction (to play), BDSM play and nothing really about the woman behind it.

I'd be open to hearing other people's interpreations though of course...

Happy music monday!

Music Monday's: BDSM can be FUN!

While it’s very likely that JT threw in these obviously SM lines to gain attention for the song: 

“Dirty babe, you see these shackles, baby, I'm your slave. 

I'll let you whip me when I misbehave. 

It's just that no one makes me feel this way.”

However, I still love the song, it’s so fun! BDSM IS about enjoyment, right? And who doesn’t want a sexy submissive, after all? ;) 

Music Monday's: Same-same dating

For the first Music Mondays Febuary post (I'm going to do Music Monday's on the last Monday of every month), I decided to post something by Ani Difranco. Being the big queer domme I am it had to happen eventually, right?

For anyone who doesn't know, same-same is what the Thai's say to tourists all the time. Perhaps 'similar' is a difficult word for them, or perhaps it's just something someone said once that stuck. In my mind, BDSM dating is similar to vanilla dating, hence the "same-same dating" title. 

Ani sings this upbeat number which is pretty much like everything else she writes, a flow of conciousness song. There's a few choice lyrics that really resonate with pretty much every bad date (BDSM date or otherwise) we've all been on: 

I think shy is boring
I think depressed is too
I think pretty is nice
but I'd rather see something new

... Wouldn't we all!? Show me YOU and I might be interested. If I lose interest in your pretense, don't be offended. It's not really you, is it?

they wanna take me out to dinner
think I'm a bitch if I don't go
seems like the people who actually like me
won't allow me to say no

I can't tell you how many people I've had to say no to "nicely", I don't bother anymore. If someone doesn't understand that you're not interested by your obvious lack of interest, they've got bigger problems than you need to be involved in.

your idea of a conversation
is the third degree
but I don't really know you
and I don't really want to talk about me

I lose interest in conversations that are all questions about me. This is a two-way thing, right? If you can't make conversation with someone, there's a sign.

I promise I won't keep posting video's with such a negative slant to them about BDSM dating or offencive internet fetishists just as soon as it's out of my system - which will be very soon!

Music Monday's: What I'm not.

A new section I'm going to try, something to keep myself entertained. I love music, although I am partial to the odd indie tune, I also listen to the radio, A LOT and have come into contact with many songs lately that seem to fit how I'm feeling as a dommina.

This one, although it's written about women in general, I found I felt an afinity to when it came to my first steps (back into) the BDSM scene online. I was being approached mostly by male subs, and when I call them subs I use the term lightly... they were men who fetishise women and dominant women in particular. The type of guys who couldn't walk upto you in a bar because they're too socially awkward to even be in a bar, but sending pictures of their penises over the internet? Now that made them feel safe. And manly.

Don't you want to have somebody who objectifies you?
Have you thought about your butt? Who's gonna tear it in two?
We've never had it so good, uh-huh, we're out of the woods
And if you can't detect the sarcasm, you've misunderstood

Because we all know how wonderful it is to be treated as nothing more than someone's fetish instead of as a human being, It's Lily Allen's It's hard out here...